2018-07-06 / On Second Thought

Missing Mimi

By Linda Sosbee

Mimi Maddock was much more than my sister-in-law. She was my friend, a very special friend.

We met while teaching at the same school in the early 80s. It was not long before we felt a true kinship. Talking on the phone almost daily, meeting frequently for meals, and taking short trips together grew that feeling of kinship into a strong friendship.

During our first summer of knowing each other, we took a 4th of July road trip to Canada to visit her brother, Warner. On the way, we began to sing. We discovered we knew the same childhood songs, the same hymns, the same patriotic songs, the same pop songs. What’s more, we knew the exact same words, the exact same tunes, and the exact same phrasing. If there were a few words we did not know, even they were the same. The best part was, we sounded pretty good!

On our first night in Canada, Warner took us to a pub featuring a live band. When the band invited audience members to sing with them, Mimi said, “Come on, Linda! We are going to do it!” Without hesitating, we walked to the mics and gave our best rendition of Summer Time. The band was so impressed they invited us to join them as their singers on an upcoming cruise.

Warner said if we were going to do that we must have a name. He promptly dubbed us “The Jugs!” (Not to be confused with the more well-known Judds!) Of course, we did not join the band on the cruise, but The Jugs did perform once more a few years later at a murder mystery dinner to equally enthusiastic applause.

Mimi never told me exactly how she did it, but after that trip to Canada to visit Warner, she began to work her magic on getting the two of us together. Nine months later we had our first date. This past June, we celebrated our 27th wedding anniversary.

In addition to having many, many good times with Mimi, I also learned many important life lessons by observing how she lived her life:

•Have FUN!

•Be kind.

•Be patient.

•Be generous to others with your time and with your resources.

•When angry, think, and think again before speaking—even if that means waiting days.

•Always continue to learn. Take courses. Try new things.

•Nurture your creativity. If you want to write that book or create that piece of art, do it. Do not wait until you have cleaned the house. Do not wait until you have the time. Do not wait until you think you can do it well. Just jump right in and do it now!

I loved Mimi. I still love Mimi, and I miss her terribly. But, I will be forever grateful for the incredible joy she brought to my life.

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